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“Tis the Season!”

By: Gary Szolosi
Tuesday, December 11, 2007 11:48 PM

 

This is the season for happiness, Santa, for Christians the Celebration of the Birth of Christ and the things that go with the holiday season. We are about to start a New Year and sometimes the best way to start a new is to reflect on the history and ask yourself, did I do everything I could have last year to make it a happy year. If you really want to reflect and evaluate yourself, then maybe you go back further than just the last year and ask yourself the hard questions. Have I set my goals and schedule to bring everything into the proper perspective or will I some day regret what I have done? Am I looking for success in all the wrong places? Am I paying a bigger price than it is all worth? What is success?

 

At some point in your life you will ask yourself these questions, albeit this year or some year in the future. All too many of us, self included, judge ourselves in a monetary sense. The more we make the more we are successful. There is a saying that money doesn’t make you happy and believe me it is true. I look back at my past and know that I would trade all the stocks I own for seeing my two daughters first steps or their first words, or hear "Daddy I love" a few more times, when they couldn't pronounce the words. However, I was on a quest for success. I traveled all over the US and was home on weekends to give them my love but it was what I missed that means so much to me today.  I will never be able to get that back, no matter how successful I was or regardless what my checking account looks like today. My intentions were noble but the price that I paid for this is something that I pay for each day. It is lost revenue. There is no second chance, do it right the first time.

 

This is a tough business and you are on call 24/7 and it is up to you to put into that schedule, your family. You also have to schedule off time for yourself.  If you have a few less dollars at the end but have years of memories that don’t relate just to business they will be the memories you cherish and they can not be purchased, regardless of how much money you possess.

 

So, when you start 2008, remember the order of importance, Family is first and the rest of the world is after them. I might add that I have a great relationship with both my daughters but I missed their childhood. I hope you don’t make the same mistake as I.

 

I wish you and your family the happiest during this Holiday season and for the rest of time. 2008 will be a great year and we will all see productive numbers without giving up more than we should.

 

Carey will receive a 25% raise and promised to forward 3% for putting that in here. JK

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Comments

Carey Tufts
Support Staff

Carey Tufts said:

Gary, this is an inspired post, a source of invaluable perspective, and one that I thank you for sharing.

And I'm not just saying that because of the bribe, although if you email that to Barry, I'll quite happily pay a referral :)

December 11, 2007 11:19 PM
Chantal Gakwaya
Member Since '06

Chantal Gakwaya said:

Gary, what a beautiful post. It's so nice to see posts like that in here.

December 11, 2007 11:45 PM
The C Team
Member Since '04

The C Team said:

Gary, nice post, thanks for reminding us what is important in life!  It is easy to forget that everything has a price.  Merry Christmas, and a prosperous New Year!!

Tony

December 12, 2007 4:34 AM
Vance Remele
Member Since '04

Vance Remele said:

Hi Gary I Just passing through and saw your post:)

I got you a Xmas present to go with your  great post above and wish everyone Happy Holidays  thank you Tony for reminding what is important in life,

Its a wonderful life indeed!!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ErrzjGCi3gY

Santa Post Ho Ho ,Ho

December 12, 2007 5:14 AM
Corie Seymour
Member Since '06

Corie Seymour said:

Thanks Gary... Like you, If I could have a "do over" on some of my trade offs in the earlier years, I would make other choices.

Your reminder about the importance of family will surely benefit the Grand Kids. And me.

Have a great year everyone, and Merry Christmas.

December 12, 2007 5:24 AM
Shelly  Constantz
Member Since '07

Shelly Constantz said:

Gary, truer words cannot be spoken.  My husband and are lucky that we had our son a little later in life, and we BOTH put that first.  It has hurt us sometimes monetarily... but we are rich in love : )

shelly

December 12, 2007 7:38 AM
Candice A Donofrio
Member Since '07

Candice A Donofrio said:

Gary rox as usual . . .  

Tis ALWAYS the season! Or should be . . .

December 12, 2007 8:34 AM
Connie Clark
Member Since '07

Connie Clark said:

Gary:

This is a wonderful post and one I totally relate to. When I came into this business I set some fairly strict guidelines for my "business" and that's what it is...a business. But my profession is not health care, where what I do is a matter of "life and death"...our role is important, but no one will die if they don't get that house (even though they act like they will).

When I have told some fell realtors, lenders, and title people how I operate, they do look at me funny, but I am a very observant person and what I observed in many people early on...I decided I did not want. If a regular business can have set hours...why not mine, so that's just what I've done. I answer my phone from 8:00 AM - 8:00 PM Monday through Saturday...after that...I'll call them back the morning. On Sunday, I'm in church and I return calls after 1:00 PM, but I don't go out with clients. That day is for God and my husband. End of story. Coming in I was told we have one of the highest divorce rates of any industry and I don't plan to be another statistic. I realize that Sundays are a "big" day in real estate...but I'll let others have them...I will continue to save that day for the two who matter most to me.

I actually came into the field of real estate because my husband and I do missions to India and love it. We hope to be completely debt free within 3 years so we can go over for about 6 months at a time. So for me the money has nothing to do with big homes and lots of stuff, but it's the joy of selling homes here, so we can "give them away" there. It really is the best of both worlds for me.

So...thanks again for the "priority" reminder. It's always good to remember why we are in the business.

Connie

December 12, 2007 9:23 AM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

Gary!

May your jingle bells always tinkle!

December 12, 2007 11:11 AM
Brian Wilson
Member Since '07

Brian Wilson said:

Great post, Gary. This reminds me of something I read a while ago:

http://activerain.com/blogsview/283867/Success-But-At-What

Thank you for the fitting reminder as we spend the Christmas season reflecting on what's truly important.

Brian Wilson, Zolve.com

December 12, 2007 11:23 AM
Howard Arnoff
Member Since '03

Howard Arnoff said:

Gary, thank you for the wonderful message.

December 12, 2007 2:22 PM
Gary Morris
Member Since '07

Gary Morris said:

Gary, I couldn't agree more. My son is grown, marrried and my Granddaughter is almost 8. I would love to have a "do over" with him, but God has given me the chance with her.

Real estate to me is a hobby. Yes, it pays the bills and hopefully will provide my wife an me a nice retirement some day, but the job is down the list from family and God, they are priority in my life.

Those out there with yourng children, please spend time with them, enjoy them and learn from them. Give them your full attention, it will come back to you later many times over.

Best wishes to all for a successful 2008.

December 12, 2007 4:37 PM

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