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Creative Tension: Chill, Bluster or Give Up

By: Mike Farmer
Wednesday, August 08, 2007 11:45 AM

I have learned from many sources - in the seventies and eighties, I studied Rollo May, Abraham Maslow, Carl Jung and others as I was preparing for a career in psychology. However, as an aside and nod to the power of great literature, I still believe Shakespeare was the greatest psychologist of all.

 

When I started transitioning from psychology to business, I learned a great deal from reading George Gilder and Peter Senge, among others. I have written here about Peter Senge’s influence.

 

One of the threads that ran throughout the ideas of all these thinkers was the relationship between the group and the individual. A group is as strong as the individuals who make up the group. An individual who is making an individual effort to improve her knowledge, understanding and overall physical, mental and emotional health adds to the group effort; an individual who is not doing these things may benefit from the group but is usually a drag on the group effort and weakens the group. If enough individuals within the group are dragging the group down then there is little success and eventual failure.

 

Groups are a collection of individuals, but the true power and effectiveness of a group, when all individuals are working toward what Senge calls Personal Mastery, is way beyond what any one individual can accomplish. This idea is nothing new, and anyone who has played sports on a team that gelled and rocked knows the power of group effort.

 

As obvious as it is, though, my experience has been, over and over, that most group efforts fall far short of their potential because so few people actually put the effort in Personal Mastery.

 

Senge writes: Personal mastery goes beyond competence and skills, though it is grounded in competence and skills. It goes beyond spiritual unfolding or opening, although it requires spiritual growth. It means approaching one’s life as a creative as opposed to reactive viewpoint.

 

By “mastery” Senge doesn’t mean dominance but rather he is referring to proficiency.

 

He goes on to say: A “master” craftsperson, for instance, doesn’t dominate pottery or weaving. But the craftperson’s skill allows the best pots or fabrics to emerge from the workshop.

 

Then he goes on to describe Personal Mastery as a discipline, a process, a point at which we never “arrive”, a continual learning mode.

 

But important to what such mastery means to me is what prevents it from becoming a reality that is second nature. A big part of what Senge describes as obstacles is holding “creative tension”, in other words – accepting where you are as opposed to where you want to be, all the while using the “creative tension” as a motivation to strive daily in a disciplined effort toward improvement. He suggests than many people react to the tension by either pretending they are far more advanced toward their vision than they really are, which causes them to miss important learning opportunities, or they give up and settle for something less.

 

I see this with real estate agents all the time – they give up before the miracle happens. They never develop the discipline first, and they never learn to live comfortably in the “creative tension”.

 

Mike From Savannah

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Comments

Howard Arnoff
Member Since '03

Howard Arnoff said:

Mike's posts always require you to sit back and think and I have to wonder if advance notice of the contest wasn't sent to him so that he would have so many wonderful posts prepared or can all these masterpieces be crafted within a few days.

My takeaway from this is the concept of "paying the price for success". Many profess to want to be successful but aren't willing to do what is necessary to accomplish this stated goal. Personal mastery is the missing link.  

Mike, congratulations on your first win yesterday, hopefully the start of many more.

August 8, 2007 10:13 AM
Lonn Dugan
Member Since '05

Lonn Dugan said:

Great Stuff Mike! Very true.      

    "So few people actually put the effort in Personal Mastery."

This is the basic point I was trying to make w/ the post, "Flying w Eagles vs Flocking w Turkeys" and several others...

Well said!

August 8, 2007 11:24 AM
Lonn Dugan
Member Since '05

Lonn Dugan said:

It matters who you hang with!

Long live the p2Cru !

August 8, 2007 11:25 AM
Carey Tufts
Support Staff

Carey Tufts said:

Excellent post Mike.  I agree with your thinking, and you've cited some powerful influences.  It's funny, though, that I caught your post just as I had a quotation from Kurt Vonnegut in mind, who said:

"We are put on earth to fart around.  Don't let anyone tell you any different."

I personally relish the 'creative tension' but I admire other approaches as well :-)

August 8, 2007 11:56 AM
Shelly  Constantz
Member Since '07

Shelly Constantz said:

I am sure my best work is created when there is creative tension.  When my clients push me to be the very best for them, and they are willing to give back in spades, we usually end up with a great situation, that we are so very proud of. It is something I think we should all strive for in our relationships, personal and business.

Shelly

August 8, 2007 12:02 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

Carey,

Of course Vonnegut was a great writer, and after the first few million I am sure he did a lot of farting around, but I am not sure he would have been a very good real estate agent. LOL -- thanks.

Thanks Howard, Lonn and Shelly.

August 8, 2007 12:09 PM
Mary Welch
Member Since '04

Mary Welch said:

"living comfortably in creative tension". Oh crud, it's ALWAYS going to be like this? Rethinking. lol.

Thanks, you are the master, don't let us tell you any different. And if we do, don't believe us.

August 8, 2007 12:13 PM
Ronda Kaufman
Member Since '06

Ronda Kaufman said:

If we don't have "creative tension" and learn from it, how to use it or how to handle it, then we will not be around in this business. We will drop out and go by the wayside til the next boom comes along. I prefer to use "creative tension" or anything else you want to call it, to help propel myself and my career to the next level. Thank you Mike for reminding me of this today.

August 8, 2007 12:16 PM
Belinda Walker
Member Since '06

Belinda Walker said:

I would describe "creative tension" as stress - not the kind associated with health problems, but the good kind of stress without which we become lazy and unmotivated.  Excellent as always, Mike.

August 8, 2007 12:42 PM
Candice A Donofrio
Member Since '07

Candice A Donofrio said:

AKA Divine Discontent.

August 8, 2007 1:03 PM
Candice A Donofrio
Member Since '07

Candice A Donofrio said:

With emphasis on the DIVINE! :)

August 8, 2007 1:04 PM
Carey Tufts
Support Staff

Carey Tufts said:

Yes, you're right Mike - as an agent, methinks Vonnegut would have been the type to have a full voicemail box, a few dozen unopened emails, a notice about a missed showing, and a couple hundred 'Pending Your Approval's :)

I'll try to embrace the Vonnegut ethic when I hit retirement.

August 8, 2007 1:08 PM
Cathy  Clark
Member Since '06

Cathy Clark said:

Spidey!

Holy Purple Cow!  

We all have much to learn and need to seek those opportunities and seize them when they present.  Taking advantage of the group's collective knowledge. If we cease evolving, we die, even though we continue to "live".

August 8, 2007 1:18 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

I can see it now, Vonnegut's clients waiting in the heat at the house he was supposed to show them while he is sitting in the tavern scribbling on a cocktail napkin.

Howard, I do write my posts as I sit down and think about something, but I have been thinking about this stuff for years. If I had a few million I would make a good farting Vonnegut (a Vonnegut fart is more like it), just thinking and writing about stuff. But, alas, I am a starving real estate agent beating the streets for a buck.

August 8, 2007 1:45 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

Bee -- yes, stress, the generative kind.

Candice, I like Divine Discontent.

Mary, thanks. But I am not a baiter.

Cathy!

Ronda, thanks for your comment

August 8, 2007 1:51 PM
Corie Seymour
Member Since '06

Corie Seymour said:

Thanks Mike.  I particularly liked the concept of the "Master Craftsman" being rewarded by the quality of work that comes from the shop, rather than the money and accolades.

I have been fortunate to know a few "masters" in this business, Those experiences have made me a much better person, and much better at my craft.

I'm not there, but one can try.

August 8, 2007 2:21 PM
Gary Szolosi
Member Since '03

Gary Szolosi said:

Mike a very though provoking post. I see the making of a good Real Estate agent as a controlled and continuing process of evolution. Just as a baby starts as a small combination of growing cells and arrives in this world as a living breathing function human being, so does a Real Estate agent. Now, since no doctor has ever witnessed the birth of an agent, there has to be further evolution to transform them into that person who will be the next super star.

It starts with the fundamentals of the industry and that starts this evolutionary process. During that process they remain committed to the learning process and have a great understanding of who they are and what they are and plan on how to improve them continually. Their understanding that the goal is an ever changing target keeps their motivation strong and their desire to advance firmly within their reach and they seldom think of failure. They are the disciplined individual that has a plan and always seem to figure out a way of achieving it.  

On a team they are easy to spot since they are normally the most enthusiastic and the player any coach or broker whishes he had more of. They are normally very happy individuals, not so much because they are successful but because they have learned to live within themselves and progress in a disciplined organized way. They measure themselves not in dollars but in the pride they take in their work and life in general.

Mike the greatest thing is that all of the skills, professionalism and great things they become were not there on the day they were born. They were all learned. Knowing that, anyone has the opportunity to be what ever they want to be, if they really try. I guess I would call that Personal Mastery.

August 8, 2007 2:37 PM
Howard Arnoff
Member Since '03

Howard Arnoff said:

Gary, excellent thoughts, some some deep thinking in this group.

August 8, 2007 2:52 PM
Craig Barrett
Member Since '07

Craig Barrett said:

Mike, Thanks for the post. In a "previous life", I was very technical. The skills I used in my craft continuously evolved and I had to keep updating my skills to keep up with the craft. It was a "learn the skill or become extinct" environment.

There are similarities in the necessity for updating skills in Real Estate as I did in my "previous life". As you touched on at the end of your post, not only do I think creative tension is a motivation for proficiency of skills, creative tension is a motivation for "survival".

August 8, 2007 3:23 PM
Howard Arnoff
Member Since '03

Howard Arnoff said:

Craig, great point. We need to keep learning as the industry, technology and the world evolves.

August 8, 2007 3:49 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

Craig, you lost me with all that technical talk.

Seriously, thanks for commenting -- yes, it is basically about surviving -- hopefully about thriving.

August 8, 2007 4:32 PM
Jana Davis & Virginia Houghton
Member Since '05

Jana Davis & Virginia Houghton said:

"Then he goes on to describe Personal Mastery as a discipline, a process, a point at which we never “arrive”, a continual learning mode."

Striving for that.  Because of who and what we are, we are constantly evolving.  Whether we want to our not!  Sometimes kicking and screaming along the way.  

I love the new words for shooting from the hip = "creative tension".  I do my best when put to that test.  

The group part I am not too sure of, being involved in sports.  There will always be those that are doing more than others.  The Team Leaders, either from pure God given talent or personal effort (giving that 110%) or both.  What you want and need is for the others to react correctly when that "creative tension" hits.  Not sure all the players on the field will give that 110% all the time, and I have not seen the team dragged down because they haven't.  They are just given an appropriate position so this does not happen.  (But then we have always had those team leaders to inspire)  Now in the town of Perfect all the members of the team would be giving 110% 24/7 and have that God given talent too.  That team would be unbeatable.

Ok Mike you have got me thinking way too much!  Not sure I should thank you or not!  The family wants dinner not Mom on the computer thinking!

Jana

August 8, 2007 6:50 PM
Craig Barrett
Member Since '07

Craig Barrett said:

Yes Mike, in order to survive you must thrive. Mike, you're pulling it out of me... thanks for that.

August 8, 2007 7:07 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

Thanks for being a part of the discussion, Craig.

I am exhausted. Good night Relibbers.

August 8, 2007 7:52 PM
Mary Welch
Member Since '04

Mary Welch said:

baiter? wha?

August 8, 2007 8:09 PM
Mike Farmer
Member Since '03

Mike Farmer said:

"baiter? wha?"

I didn't want to make the joke too obvious to protect the innocent among us. It was a silly, risque joke about you calling me a master.

August 9, 2007 3:58 AM
Mary Welch
Member Since '04

Mary Welch said:

gotcha lol.

August 9, 2007 7:32 AM
Belinda Walker
Member Since '06

Belinda Walker said:

<blushing>

August 9, 2007 10:05 AM
Candice A Donofrio
Member Since '07

Candice A Donofrio said:

Mike, TMI man . . . :)

August 9, 2007 10:07 AM

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September 4, 2007 10:00 AM

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