I was watching one of those T.V. real estate shows not long ago and saw something I am going to try. On the show an older couple, looking to down size, had an offer come in from a young couple that had been to the house to view it several time. The older couple met this young couple on at least one of the showings, so they new a little about them already.
The REALTORS (a team of 2 women) presented the written offer and the sellers were a little insulted that it was lower than they wanted. Then one of the REALTORS said I have a sealed envelope here that the young couple wanted me to give you along with their offer. The older couple opened what appeared to be a nice card and read the message from the young couple. In the message they said something along these lines, “You have such a lovely family home, I am sure you have wonderful memories of raising your children here, all the birthdays, holidays, and other special times. We know our offer is lower than what your home is worth, but we are just starting out and this all we feel we can afford right now. We would love to have the chance to build a lifetime of memories in this wonderful home.”
The older couple became misty eyed, hugged each other and said something to the effect of, “Let’s give these wonderful kids a chance to start and raise their family here just like we did.” It was amazing the difference that personal message made.
Cold, hard numbers on a very cold, legal contract are not very heart warming and if the numbers are not what the seller was expecting they can quickly become antagonistic.
It is often quite emotional for a seller to leave the family home. Bring in professionals (REALTORS) and strangers (buyers) that pick their personal tastes apart, insult the upkeep of their property (buyer’s inspectors) and soon you have a very contentious situation.
In other words, the buying side often down plays the value of the home in trying to get the best price and this is often insulting to the seller that has invested money, years, laughter and tears into that property. Why not compliment the sellers and praise them and their home the way this young couple did, but explain you can only afford a certain price. You just might get that price easier. What is the old saying, “You catch more flies with honey.”
The personal message from the buyers seems like a great idea and I plan to use it when representing a buyer.
Have any of you tried this or did you see that show?